Would you call your ex up to let them know you’d started dating someone new?

Based on Katie ThurstonThat’s what ordinary people don’t do. Bachelorette star shared a video on Instagram on Friday, Dec. 17, to respond to online criticism after going public with boyfriend John Hersey about a month after news broke of her split with fiancé Blake Moynes.

“It’s hard thing to navigate,” she said, while discussing her “regret” for her “12 Days of Messy” series, which revealed her feelings about John. “People are always like, ‘Well, you should have told Blake.'”

Katie thought, “It’s almost like we had a conversation about it.” Blake could be notified. We discussed this. She decided to decline. 

“Here’s what people often forget, I think: We’re normal people just trying to lead normal lives. When was the last time you had to inform an ex you were seeing someone else? Katie said. Katie said. What if Blake gave me a heads-up? Would that have resulted in the same hateful reaction? It’s hard to say.