“I would like to try and thank one person properly and say that while I was singing and dancing and playing piano, and having one of the best experiences I ever had on a film,” Gosling said in January 2017 while accepting his Golden Globe for lead actor in a musical or comedy for La La Land“My lady was raising our girl, trying to save her brother’s battle against cancer.

“If she hadn’t taken all that on so that I could have this experience, it would surely be someone else up here other than me today—so,” he looked intently into the camera, “sweetheart, thank you. Amada and Esmeralda are my daughters. I love you. He also dedicated his award in Eva’s memory. Juan Carlos Méndez Jr.Amada, who was 12 days old when he died on April 16, 2016, just twelve days before Amada was.

In the moment, that was an unprecedented glimpse behind closed doors from Gosling, who since he got together with Mendes has usually preferred to talk about literally anything other than his private life in interviews. Mendes and Mendes were asked what Christmas present they bought for their children. The Ellen DeGeneres ShowGosling charmingly retorted that he was looking for a Roomba to replace his current one because he had felt so guilty about the way his first Roomba kept cleaning.

So for the most part, they can rest assured that their love story remains all their own.