Kristin Cavallari is going back to the beginning.

Two years later, the ex-husband has left me. Jay CutlerThe Laguna Beach alum reflected on how there had been “red flags” in their relationship along the way. While she has nothing but well wishes for the former Chicago Bears quarterback—with whom she shares kids Camden, 9, Jaxon8 and Saylor, 6—she admitted that ending their marriage was for the best.

“Because I have three kids with him, I’m very careful about what I say,” Kristin shared on the Aug. 3 episode of the Calm Her Dad podcast. It was toxic. “It was toxic. That’s it. 

Uncommon James’ founder notes that the toxic relationship was evident in her “all time” inner circle, though she tried to hide it.

Her confession was that “I sort of kept it from some of the friends,” she admitted. My mom was there every step of this journey.