Katie said her decision to divorce Tom was based on several factors, but the “this” her loved ones referenced had to do with Tom’s apparent inability to evolve. You wait around for somebody to act differently, or right. It’s like “Why am I waiting, hoping, and praying for something like this?”
Katie stated, “It felt very disrespectful of myself.” These types of behavior are very hurtful and have not changed. When my behavior was destructive and hurtful to the relationship, I got my s–t together because God forbid I destroy this relationship that is so important to me.”
At the same time, Katie said it’s because of all the work she did that she was hesitant to break up with Tom. “I didn’t marry this person because I ultimately wanted to get a divorce,” she explained. We were both at one time trying to start our own family. We shared that goal. But then, I started thinking about my own actions. What are I getting from this? Are my needs being met?”