Speak to HuffPost Live in 2015, she referred to their intense romance as “a high-profile relationship that fell apart in a really bad way” amid a really low career point for her. Lopez said that she has no regrets. It would be the same thing again. It’s true. Everything, even the romantic part. Every part is part your story.

Now fast forward six years, and she does it again.

But not quite. With five children between them and a whole lot more mileage on the odometer of life, they’re older, wiser and giving zero f–ks about what the media might have to say about their romantic reunion. (Though, in case they ever wonder, the response ranged from overjoyed to downright repentant, with some embracing the chance to reflect on why, as Affleck has described what they were like 19 years ago, they were “so f–king mean.”)

And oh, the lessons that each had learned—about love, fidelity, family and, perhaps most importantly, themselves.